Mualimah Salma Khalfan Alawi
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Name: Mualimah Salma Khalfan Alawi
Age: NIL
Location: Qom, Iran
Expertize: Family matters, persoanl concerns eg depression, youth issues and spirituality.
Question:I want to clarify my understanding of a couple of concepts.

Allah only gives us hardships that we can handle correct? So, in other words, any temptations to commit sins are also from Allah, and Allah only gives us temptations that He has given us the ability to overcome right?

If that is correct, then are the capabilities to overcome already present within us prior to the temptation or hardship coming into our lives? Or am I mistaken?

Ayatollah:Khamenei

Answer: Allah surely tests us only to our capabilities. Temptations to sin are also within the nature of mankind who is the creation of Allah and the power to overcome it has been bestowed by Allah, but this is potentially there and when temptations come on the way, this power of resistance and controlling the vicious self is actualized and man resembles the angles or even attains a higher status near Allah because of reaching perfection in a manner that the angles cannot due to their possessing the faculty of intellect only and not having to combat with the desire and anger.
Man has to overcome their extra faculties of desire and anger and make their intellect rule these faculties which help in sinning and temptations if they loose their equilibrium by not using it in their appropriate manner.
The test is great but so is the reward. In the Quran it mentions that
"Indeed, successful is the one who has purified himself."
This purification is to balance the faculties and let the intellect rule the faculty of desire and anger.
You can read.more on this by searching on the perfect man in Islam and books like these mainly found in Al islam.org library.
Question:I am still struggling to quit sinning. I wanted to know if Allah swt still forgives sins even if we keep committing it multiple times? I am doing my best to stop. I have watched some lectures, I am reading The Greater Sins book and trying my best not to indulge. Sinning has reduced a little, but I am still struggling. Is He still forgiving me?

Also, if this does not work, I was thinking to fast 40 consecutive days as a punishment for not fulfilling my promise to stop by a certain date that I set for myself. What do you think?

If that still doesn't work, do I have to resort to mutah? My parents and I are not in favor of it. Is it even a practical option in my case? Can a virgin male do it if his parents are not allowing it?

Ayatollah:Khamenei

Answer: Allah is ever Merciful and ever forgiving. If you get the guidance to repent, then know for sure that He is the one to have bestowed you with this tawfeeq and ready to forgive you even if you repeat the sins provided you don't do it intentionally to displease Him and without trying your best to refrain.
Fasting has a great impact on your faith and keeping away from sins so if you can do that, why not. InshAllah you will earn great rewards from fasting and it will keep you away from sinning.
A virgin man can do Mutah with the right woman even without the parents permission if he knows he will fall into haram. Remember to choose the right partner for Mutah which is a marriage after all, be it only a temporary one. Eg a woman who will not harm you in anyway through diseases or one who will keep your dignity even if she’s not a Muslim (Ahl kitab)
Be certain that Allah will surely help you if you hate sinning and He watches those who try all their best and gives them their accord in this world and the hereafter.
Question:Unfortunately I have been struggling with spirituality for a prolonged period of time. It has exhausted me, especially since I haven’t experienced a spiritual low like this in so long. I long to regain high spirituality, but even though I still perform prayer & read the Quran, I can’t seem to feel a connection with God. Any advice would be appreciated, for I am incredibly lost at the moment.

Ayatollah:Kamal Al Haydari

Answer:
Being spiritual is a great feeling which comes about when one follows the commands of Allah. One will naturally feel satisfied becoming close to Allah and this will move his heart. In actuality, it is Allah who does that as a gift for the struggle the believers have done by sincere obedience. However, when it is done with the intention of getting spiritual and feeling great, it is nothing but a satanic ruse. Shaitan wants to drive one far from his Lord and uses all the tricks to do that. Of these are what you are facing at the moment ie feeling low about not getting the feeling of spirituality. If you're trying your best, you've got to wait for that and not keep your intention solely for the reason of feeling spiritual, rather, doing it only for the pleasure of Allah is the right spirituality whether you feel it or not. This doesn't mean that you don't have to try by doing zikr and obeying all the commandments Allah has kept for us. Remember, just the fact that you havent given up and are still praying and reciting the Holy Quran is in itself a great spiritual progress, and none but Allah has granted you this guidance
Be humble, thank Allah always and never stop asking for forgiveness. InshAllah when you will come to feel deeply of the warmth of spirituality in your soul, it will be only Allah's pleasure that you will want to have.
The battle against Satan can only be won if we are aware of his traps, and if we apply the strategies to defeat him and the best way to start is doing all your duties only for the nearness and pleasure of Allah. He will surely give you more reward than you ever expected.
Question:I want to know that is wearing face piece I mean covering half face (i.e except eyes and eyebrows) allowed?
Is there any criteria for it?

Ayatollah:Khamenei

Answer: Permanent Niqab or face veil is not an Islamic requirement; it is a personal choice since Niqab is forbidden during Ihram according to most contemporary scholars based on traditions.
According to some rulings, it is better to cover if there is fear of being watched and attracted by Na Mahram.
Islam is a religion that is as easy as possible to follow. Thus when there is fear of such situations, maybe you can cover half your face and when there is no fear of on lookers, you can wear the normal Hijab without any extra attractions eg makeup, jewelry etc.
Question:I want to know that can a women sit on prayer mat while having her monthly cycle ( periods) to read dua or anything else?
Is it allowed to sit on prayer mat in these days?

Ayatollah:Khamenei

Answer: Yes it is allowed and infact mustahab to make oneself clean then sit on a prayer mat and do as much dua as you want.
Question:Can a woman make wudhu when on her period and can she read Quran and if so what are the conditions.

Ayatollah:Sistani

Answer: Wudhu is mustahab to do during the period and Quran can be read without reading the ayats pertaining to wajib sajdas and according to some maraaje also the suras which have wajib sajdas. Touching the verses of the Holy Quran is not allowed in this state even if one be in wudhu.
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