1. What are the permissible ways of contraception or avoiding pregnancy in a married couple?

2. I recall reading that Islam looks down upon the act of pulling out with your wife? …

3. Finally, if the above is indeed not allowed is it permissible to eat anti pregnancy pills?

There are many ways of permissible contraception, condoms, diaphragm and pills are all allowed. Coitus interruptus is makrooh