For about 2 years my husband and I have been trying to have intercourse to no avail. It is extremely painful for me as I have vaginismus and have seen doctors for it but they all say to find different ways to relax, implying to use some substance or another. It’s been 2 years now and it’s causing issues in my marriage as my husband has stronger urges than I and he feels his needs aren’t met. I don’t want to neglect his needs and it’s different than doing oral, I want us to have a healthy relationship and have kids insha’Allah.
Since it was recommended that I use substances to relax my body and for the pain, is it permissible if I use weed strictly only for vaginal pain relief in order to fulfill my duties to my husband?