Forbidden looking is looking with lust, but a fleeting look, or one that is not lustful, is not forbidden.
Of course, life in these societies is difficult, and requires a great deal of piety and self-striving. The best solution is marriage.
If you can get a permanent marriage, then this is excellent, and if it is not possible, then a temporary marriage. This is if you fear yourself from falling into the forbidden.
I pray to Allah Almighty to protect you and increase you in faith and piety