1- Try to do amaal which you expect from kids.
2- Take them to majlis.
3- Arrange majlis at home and always teach them to do majlis work like servants.
4- Respect your inlaws in front of your kids and ask your husband to respect his inlaws in front of kids.
5- Arrange family dinner and lunch as per your convenience.
6- Recite awwal waqt namaz and take them to family picnics and outing.
6- Never argue or fight or shout on your husband / wife in front of kids. Spouses should respect each other in front of kids
these are some general solutions .