I am aware aware that conventional dating is frowned upon and declared Haram by most scholars then what is the proper method and approach of finding the right spouse? I would want to marry someone who’s personality that I resonate with and have common interests and values.

After doing your general research, you can meet her in a professional setting and talk to her to get an idea of her personality. Such conversations should be kept professional. Also, one should not spend too much time talking. Some people spend 6 months or a year talking. That’s not right. Talk to her a few times and then make a decision.