I have a question regarding najasah. if i eat at a restaurant with a kafir friend or family member, am i allowed to go back to that restaurant because now i know that a plate has become najis and spoon. or Does it become tahir?

If the plate is washed then there is no problem
Also many marajie today consider Ahlul Kitab as tahir

I have a question regarding najasah. If i eat at a restaurant with a kafir friend or family member, am i allowed to go back to that restaurant because now i know that a plate has become najis and spoon. or Does it become tahir?

The plate becomes clean after cleaning and dryness. So nothing to worry about. Go back and eat at the same restaurant