You have the option to tell him that you will follow his marja however act according to your own marja. The issue however is that if someone is like this, meaning is intolerant to this extent on these kind of issues, from an akhlaqi perspective, he may have problems in other issues as well. It would be best for you to consult a counselor and if this marriage is in your best interest. If he is going to have a problem on these kind of issues, this marriage will not work and will not have good results. You need to think more about this.