In Islam it is the duty of a man towards his wife to provide for his wife and for the maintenance of the house expenses even if the woman earns her own income. Although you might know this is the case, remember that you're doing a big Jehad on your part if you be patient and not complain. Now that you know the attitude of your husband, try to avoid arguments and think about how you can resolve your marriage. In the same way that your husband thinks his heaven lies in serving his father, which is partly true if he doesn't leave his duties towards his family, you can also choose this path of heaven by serving all you can to bring peace and harmony to your family.
Even if you have to pretend, try being nice to him and dont raise any arguments to provoke the matter. Count every day and note it down. This kind of evaluation of one's deeds help alot and you will see with time you will find no arguments in your relationship. Of course this doesn't mean that you have to behave in a cold manner, but rather you have to try your best to talk amicably with your husband. Try to grasp the chance when you can communicate rather than argue. With good intention and effort you will inshAllah change his behaviour.
If you can afford the expenses, do that because of saving your marriage. Remember if your marriage breaks God forbid, it would be a big heartache for you and your children which im sure you wouldn't like. Any financial savings will not be able to give you the least pleasure.
Allah helps those who help themselves first. Im sure with this motto in mind and with Tawakkul in the Almighty Allah and love towards your family, you will cause a big change in your life with everyone around you including your father in-law who is in the position of your father in Islam. Think that your husband is spending for your father and Allah will increase your sustanance a tenfold inshAllah.
Mere husband aksar her choti choti bat pe naraz ho k mujse kai kai din bat krna chor detey hain. Kbhi meri ghalati hoti hai aur kbhi nhi lakin her bar mujhe unse maafi maang k bat krnay pe majboor krna parta hai aur kbhi kbhaar wo bar bar maafi mangnay pe bhi nhi mantay. Mai job krti hn. Apnay aur apnay bachay k saray financially expanses mai khud uthaati hn. Husband se kahun to wo puri bat nhi suntay is mamlay mei aur naraz hotay hain. Mere father in law hmaray sath rehtay hain mere husband ki sari tawajha ka markaz ziada tar wohi hotay hain aur unk akhrajaat . aur wo kehtay hain k meri jannat yehi hai bs. ghr k sb kamo ki zimadari , bachay ko doctor k pas le janay ki zimadari, usk saray akhrajaat sb mai khud krti hn. lakin mere husband na help krtay hain ulta meri zara si shikayat pe naraz bhi ho jatay hain. Beemari mei bhi mai bachay ko khud dekhti hn aur husband k aur unk father k sab kam khud krti hn. mere sawal ye hai k is mamlay mei mere husband ki kia zimadari hai aur meri kis had tak. aur bachay ki zimadari kis had tak apnay father pe hai? kia unka ye rawaya justifed hai kisi bhi lehaz se?
Dono ko apni zimmedari ada karni chahiye Aur jaisa ke aap ne likha hai aap apni zimmedari Ghar ke kam bache Aur family ki care karti hain Aur job Bhi karti hain Khuda jaza e Khair de Aur Aapke Ghar me khushi ka mahaul ho jaye shauhar biwi ko ek dosre ki help karni chahiye respect karni chahiye. Ghar kar kharch shauhar ki zimmedari hai. Mere khayal me ek dosre ko zimmedari ka ehsas dilane ke bajaye kisi alim ya Ghar ke buzurgo ki madad se issue resolve karne ki koshish karein yeh rishta mutual understanding Aur mutual respect ka hai