It is not right for the husband to prevent his wife from seeing her family. This is not part of islamic teachings nor from the recommendations of Ahlulbayt. Marriage about helping each other and supporting one another. A good relationship with parents is important for both husband and wife.
According to Quran 4:34 husbands are protectors of their wives. They should not be dictators. According to islam they should treat each other with love and respect. Hadith can’t be interpreted by people to suit their own whims
My question is regarding the extent of right of a husband over his wife.
My question is regarding the extent of right of a husband over his wife.
Firstly does a husband have the right to forbid his wife from visiting her parents (and relatives) possibly due to ego issues ( between him and his in-laws).
Moreover, some people believe husbands to be controllers of their wife in every aspect of her life and quote various Hadeeth from the 14 infallibles. To what extent is this correct in the religion of Islam.
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Husbands have authority but not to that extent.
Being good to relatives is an obligation. Husband can not prevent that.
Secondly, husband cannot ask wife to do anything against the shariah.
My question is regarding the extent of right of a husband over his wife.
Firstly does a husband have the right to forbid his wife from visiting her parents (and relatives) possibly due to ego issues ( between him and his in-laws).
Moreover, some people believe husbands to be controllers of their wife in every aspect of her life and quote various Hadeeth from the 14 infallibles. To what extent is this correct in the religion of Islam.
Islam is a religion that establishes a system of authority and responsibility in every space.
As in the workplace one cannot go out of the workplace without the permission of the authority. Similarly in the family Islam made the husband an authority. So by default if a wife wants to go out then she needs to respect his authority, some maraje limit this authority in situations where there is a conflict in the bed rights of the husband.
However if the husbands will bully his wife and abuse his authority over her and give her pain then he will end up in the hell fire.
It is always good to have mutual respect and bilateral understanding between both.
My question is regarding the extent of right of a husband over his wife.
Firstly does a husband have the right to forbid his wife from visiting her parents (and relatives) possibly due to ego issues ( between him and his in-laws).
Moreover, some people believe husbands to be controllers of their wife in every aspect of her life and quote various Hadeeth from the 14 infallibles. To what extent is this correct in the religion of Islam.
Its very good to be educated about your rights as well the rights of your spouse. This way your respect for him will increase and it may change your outlook that the situation is not like a for or against one towards another. Its rather a perfect balance.
The rights of a wife can be divided into common and particular rights. The common ones that she shares with her spouse are that behaving with honour and equity towards each other, adorn and gratify each other with sexual needs and rearing and providing needs for their children physically, mentally and spiritually. The financial responsibility lies with the father.
As for the exclusive rights of a wife, they are that she is to be protected and guarded by her husband.
The rights of a wife exclusively can be summarized as follows.
1. Providing for the expenses of the family, making plans through consultation, and managing the incomes and expenditures of the family
2. Safeguarding, protecting, and looking after all members of the family
3. Overseeing religious, moral, and cultural issues of family members, guiding them towards improvement and spiritual and physical development, and preventing social and ethical corruption within the family.
In Islam, the responsibility of guardianship, supervision, and management of the family have been set on the shoulders of men. As Allah the Exalted, has stated in the Holy Quran.
This shows that man cannot control her in every aspect of life but can protect and supervise her which is perfectly suitable.for her makeup.
Last but not least, there's a tradition also that says,
A woman came to the Prophet (S) and said, ‘O Messenger of Allah! What are the rights of men upon their wives?’ He replied, ‘She must obey him and not be disobedient. She must not give charity from his house without his permission. She must not perform voluntary fasts without his permission. She must not deny him her body, even if she is on the back of a camel. ( About to go somewhere) And she must not exit her home without his permission.
This does not show any kind of dictatorship as such because the man with his mindset knows how the woman reacts after judging that for example when she goes to certain places, she will react more emotionally and probably cause turmoil in her homely affairs. If this is for a true concern on his part, then its acceptable or else its very unethical if he prevents her from going to her relatives. The places he should prevent his wife from going are those where unlawful acts are done eg mixed gatherings or an unsuitable work place or party etc.
A cleaver woman knows how to deal with this and can probably promise him that all things will remain calm instead of breaking his ego and forcing him to let her go. InshAllah slowly and gradually you will make your husband agree to the halal places you would like to go.