It would not be permissible, even if you are talking to your wife and seeing her. Some of the following methods can help you manage your desire to an extent:

1- Change your diet, eat less, avoid warm foods (like dates and mangoes), or high sugar and and high calorie) foods as much as you can

2- Smell camphor

3- Avoid going to places that trigger you

4- When you get the urge do wudhu

5- Keep yourself as busy as possible, and set up your time such that you don’t spend time by yourself