I don’t believe that it is possible to fall in love with anyone without being in a relationship with that person. So love definitely comes after marriage, and not before. I believe that when one looks for what Islam dictates for them to marry, their chances of having a loving relationship increases. The risk of living in an unloving relationship is always present regardless, but it is more important to marry someone that follows Islamic requirements than to marry someone that you think will make the birds sing and rainbows appear every time you look at them.